Seven tips to help you practice self care amid chaos.
Below is an adaptation of an article written by the Huffington Post on how stress from the news is real and how you can cope. Click HERE to view the original post.
Last week, more than 260 civilians were killed in violent clashes with military forces in Istanbul.
Just before that, at least 84 people lost their lives when a truck deliberately zigzagged through crowds of people celebrating Bastille Day in Nice, France. Three weeks ago, Alton Sterling and Philando Castile were shot and killed by police and five police officers were gunned down by a sniper. In the previous month, 49 people were killed by a shooter at an iconic gay nightclub in Orlando, FL.
And scores of other shootings, bombings and tragedies have happened in the days and hours in between.
We heard the stories. We saw the pictures. We watched terror happen on video.
For victims’ loved ones, the grief is immeasurable. For African-Americans, the pain of watching police brutality against black people comes with a toll of its own. For people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, the hurt of an attack against their own community is agonizing.
People intimately affected by these tragedies experience emotions that others of us cannot fathom.
But even for those without a personal connection to these terrible events, sadness and pain are still a reality.
We feel pain even if we're not involved.
If you see, hear or even read about something traumatic ― even if you’re not directly involved ― you can still have an emotional response, Robert Hawkins, an associate professor at the Silver School of Social Work at New York University, told The Huffington Post. “This is trauma that doesn’t necessarily happen to you or you didn’t necessarily experience, but you become affected by it."
It can be worse if you identify with those affected, explained David Kaplan, chief professional officer at the American Counseling Association. “If you relate to the person who was attacked in any way, you’re going to grieve because it’s also part of you,” Kaplan told HuffPost previously.
But that grief, while normal and expected, can lead to stress and sleeplessness.
“With the frequency of shootings and terror attacks there is a sense of anxiety that’s building in people,” Anita Gadhia-Smith, a psychologist in Washington, D.C., told The New York Times ― “a sense of vulnerability and powerlessness.”
Traumatic life events are among the biggest causes of anxiety and depression, research suggests. But experts say taking steps to care for yourself ― including taking care of your sleep ― is what helps you cope best with that stress.
It is important to address stress and sleeplessness is important to address early, experts say, before they lead to long-term cycles of mental health problems and chronic insomnias (which can grow from cycles of short-term insomnias). “Anxiety and insomnia can feed each other and become a cycle,” the National Sleep Foundation says.
Here are seven self-care tips that can help you deal with worries and sleep better:
Talk about what’s bothering you.
A big part of dealing with a tragedy is expressing your emotions, said Steve Orma, a clinical psychologist and author of Stop Worrying and Go to Sleep: How to Put Insomnia to Bed for Good. “If you’re sad, allow yourself to cry. If you’re anxious and afraid, say ‘I’m anxious and afraid,’” he previously told HuffPost. Talk to family and friends about how you’re feeling.
Do things that help you relax.
Relaxation and meditation techniques help ease stress and can be especially helpful before bed, said Phyllis Zee, director of the Sleep Disorders Center at Northwestern Memorial Hospital. Figure out what helps you relax; here are some ideas: taking a bath or shower, journaling or writing down your thoughts, reading, playing cards or a board game with family or friends, going for a walk or exercising.
Don’t change your sleep routines.
Losing sleep at night might make that snooze button more tempting. But picking up poor sleep habits just makes it harder for you to fall asleep at night, Orma said. If you’re not a regular nap-taker, don’t start. Avoid sleeping in later than usual. And don’t suddenly start taking sleep medications because you may grow dependent on them, he said.
Turn off the news at night
Leave a news-free buffer of at least 30 to 45 minutes before you try to sleep to allow yourself to relax, Orma said. Limiting your exposure to media coverage of violence will help you relax and sleep better.
Practice good sleep hygiene
It might sound obvious, but it’s worth noting that the times that you’re more likely to have trouble sleeping are when it’s most important to do the things that are good for sleep, Zee said. Exercise during the day, but not too close to bedtime. Get some sun during the day, but avoid bright light later at night (which can make it harder for you to fall asleep and actually make you sleep worse).
Give yourself a break
You need to tell yourself it’s ok to have a few nights of poor sleep, Orma said. The more you beat yourself up for not sleeping well and the more upset you get about it, the more anxious you can become about not sleeping and fuel the sleepless cycle. Talk to yourself like you were talking to your best friend or a child... in a very nurturing, supportive or positive way. You wouldn’t freak them out.
Get the help you need
If coping on your own or with your family members is not enough, talk to a psychologist or licensed medical health professional. While there is no one timeline that fits everyone for how long it should take for a trauma to subside, the APA says you might benefit from seeking professional help if you feel overwhelmed by sadness or helplessness, if the problem doesn’t seem to be getting better after talking with family and friends or if you find it difficult to maintain your everyday routine. Click HERE for local mental health resources for adults and youth.